This is the second blog in a series I have entitled, “Everywhere Rhythm.” Have you been listening to YOUR world? If you haven’t read the first entry in this series, I encourage you to take just a few minutes (literally), and take a look at what I wrote.
It’s been two weeks almost, and I have been trying to listen to my world. I am at Panera Bread Co. right now, and the rumble of conversation, the occasional clank of a spoon hitting the bowl, and the blender making smoothies in the kitchen, all create together, a rhythmic ebb and flow of sound. It’s kind of cool! Currently the sound is at a “low” volume, but by the time I finish writing this sentence it will have escalated due to people laughing, and people talking louder. I find it fascinating!
Did you know that on the average, every 7 minutes of conversation between a group of people, there is a period of silence, or a little bit of time where the conversation stops, or slows?? We all have experienced it. At certain times with our friends, our conversations seem to flow seamlessly! Then, at other times, they seem to be forced, or even non-existant. In one part of Malcolm Gladwell’s book, “Blink,” he talks about various studies done by researchers and scientists, trying to dissect the parts and rhythms of a conversation. Researchers have found that there is a rhythm in our conversations, both verbal and non-verbal. Have you found yourself standing with your arms crossed, and then you notice that the other person has their arms crossed too? Have you noticed that you and the other person/people are in a similar stance, leaning on one foot?
As a drummer, and in my personality in general, I have developed leadership. I am a leader. I want to set the non-verbal communication in my conversations. Instead of following what the other person does, I want them to follow me. When I put my hands in my pockets, I want the other people to put their hands in their pockets. When I shift my weight from my left side to my right side, I want them to do the same thing. I want to lead non-verbally. I want them to take the cues from me, not the other way around.
Next time I will discuss how the different rhythms in music play an important role in evoking different feelings and emotions in the listener. Be sure to keep checking back.